Lately I have been hearing some issues about relationships from various friends, it sort of caused me to ponder about their problems and i truly feel for them and try to put myself in their shoes and i feel the pain they had/are going through. So i felt that i have to write this.

One of my girlfriends is currently dating a guy who is probably 7-8 years her senior. I know love has no boundaries, provided the guy isn't a paedophile. Personally, i think older guys will learn to cherish their younger girlfriends better than younger guys, probably bcos of various situations:

1. They are financially stable, and afford to lavish a bit more on the gf.
2. They are probably feeling old and feel tt its time to settle down.
3. The girl's younger, makes him feel younger and happier, so dote on her more loh. (haha)

But then there comes the question of the guy's agenda. Is he really interested in the girl, or is he thinking that xiao mei mei are easier to cheat, so he gave the chase? Supposedly he "sexed" three or four girls before and told her "I'm really in love with you", would you be inclined to jump to the conclusion that he's just trying to find free sex by coating her with sweet words? I dunno about you, but i immediately came to that conclusion. Well, i'm a man-sweeping skeptic after 3 failure relationships with the opposite gender. Sometimes i think guys are jerks. Sorry if i just swept in the good guys, pardon me.

There's a saying, "Women are simple, you treat them nice, and they will do anything for you." Wonderfully said. There's another saying, "Guys use love to get sex, while girls use sex to get love." Sad to hear it but So blatantly true. And also, "Words are Cheap, it doesn't cost you anything". So, can everybody exercise some discernment and not be too caught in people's hollow praises and falsehoods.

WAKE UP UR IDEA LAH! To all the innocent and stupid girls/guys out there! Pls learn to protect urself and dun be afraid to lose out on the chance of another possible relationship, if your mind/heart tells you this guy/girl isn't the right one for you. Why bother to go and bang ur stupid head on the wall, when you know you two aren't tied together by the red string? I believe that no one else can make you complete, except yourself. People love company, they want a future partner to spend the rest of their lives together. But people are just people, they aren't perfect and there are times when you hope you didn't even know them, bcos of the trouble and sadness they brought to ur life. You will definitely love them, but this also means that you gotta bear their nonsense too. If you can't bear that side of them, i think its better that you take a vacation from r/s and learn to love urself, improve urself and find out wut you really want in life.

I just wanna post a question to everybody, if the guy/girl's not a jerk, and he/she's really like 6-10 years older than you, can you accept him/her for who he/she is? And why can you accept him/her?

For me, i think i can accept a guy who is @ max 6-7 years older than me, but he has to have the same religion and same interests as me (anime esp) and not expect me to stay @ home and serve him like a maid. And i'm not going to have kids that quickly either, dun ask me to start a family asap after we get married. I love kids but I got my own life, i got things i want to do and learn. In the past, i sacrificed alot of things in the name of love. I stopped myself from doing time consuming and high commitment ccas and lessons, so that i can spend more time with my ex. But @ the end of it, i realised i was just being stupid, letting time pass just lidat.

of cos, @ the end of the day, i hope i will find somebody who will be willing to be with me and i with him. But i ain't gonna let go of my values, beliefs and change 360 or 180 degrees just for him anymore. This is me, take it or leave it.

Cos love, so many people use your name in vain.
Love, for better or worse, I'll still choose you first.
"Lyrics from JUNE-LOVE"